From an anonymous friend to the world
Having lost both of my parents as a teenager , I know how difficult it can be to come to terms with the world. To expect people to realize that you are more vulnerable and more sensitive to being hurt, without having to tell them. To be frustrated that the little things in life that come easily to other people is not served on a platter to you, no you have to work for it . When I lost my mother at 15 , my world changed in a day, from being a carefree adolescent who was not used to picking up clothes after changing , to being someone who has to take care of the household, cooking and the brother who is just 11. I did not do a good job. I have rebelled for years , trying to run away from responsibilities, to off course no vain . It has caused me more pain and suffering. When my father died three years ago , I suffered from depression for a good part of a year . Although I have recovered, I still am vulnerable , it's a wound that hurts whenever someone picks at it. I wish I Could be more open about my loss , but the truth is most people don't wanna listen . They don't want to invest in understanding just what you mean when you say you are feeling low. Go for a walk , take a rest , you work too hard comes the reply when what you really want to hear is - Hold on , I will be at your home in half hour , will pick up take out food on the way , tell me what do you wanna have ?
Having lost both of my parents as a teenager , I know how difficult it can be to come to terms with the world. To expect people to realize that you are more vulnerable and more sensitive to being hurt, without having to tell them. To be frustrated that the little things in life that come easily to other people is not served on a platter to you, no you have to work for it . When I lost my mother at 15 , my world changed in a day, from being a carefree adolescent who was not used to picking up clothes after changing , to being someone who has to take care of the household, cooking and the brother who is just 11. I did not do a good job. I have rebelled for years , trying to run away from responsibilities, to off course no vain . It has caused me more pain and suffering. When my father died three years ago , I suffered from depression for a good part of a year . Although I have recovered, I still am vulnerable , it's a wound that hurts whenever someone picks at it. I wish I Could be more open about my loss , but the truth is most people don't wanna listen . They don't want to invest in understanding just what you mean when you say you are feeling low. Go for a walk , take a rest , you work too hard comes the reply when what you really want to hear is - Hold on , I will be at your home in half hour , will pick up take out food on the way , tell me what do you wanna have ?
In fact most of my (new)friends don't even know that my parents are no more , they never ask. People are so busy being busy, they forget the relevant things.
Please make Sure people around you are fine , make sure they have what they need , be a little more compassionate, a little more attentive and always check on people , in person. It matters.
